Anonymous asked:
how do u reject someone without hurting their feelings if u still wanna be friends w them
charlottedalessio:
guys & girls don’t take rejection that great. if you want to stay friends with them sometimes the honest best approach is being able to “reject” them in a way where you did it without using your words & they just kinda picked up the vibe. this sounds kinda fucked but i’ve done both in my life & not saying formally to the other person “hey you’re just not for me.” (in the nicest way) is the nail on the coffin. they normally don’t wanna be friends, its awkward everytime you see them & sometimes you just end up avoiding each other. so honestly i just like to slowly leave without a trace. each day kinda showing less & less interest until suddenly oh shit we’re not talking
also this is my advice for people your just SUPER casually seeing or maybe just started to see & didn’t fully vibe with them. cuz if it’s someone who you dated or exclusive with etc etc you definitely owe them a proper conversation & just be real as fuck w them
Anonymous asked:
would you consider yourself an over thinker or do you ever get super anxious? advice on how to chill tf out???
charlottedalessio:
im definitely not an overthinker. i’ve been told by many times by friends actually that i underthink a lot of things. which isn’t always said in a postitive light, but i actually disagree. i think overthinking situations is so bad for your headspace & peace of mind. every time i’ve caught myself thinking so deep into this huge hole of all these anxiety driven thoughts, it just makes me go insane. or it just makes me insecure & not act like myself because in my head now, everyone in the room hates me. or whatever you tend to over think in your head.
there’s an art in underthinking situations & not getting wrapped up in an idea. just live & be present. don’t think about what everyone’s possibly thinking about you. truth is they probably aren’t & it doesn’t even benefit you if you’re right. it genuinely only leads to anxiety. so just stop thinking & worrying so much about everything. what’s the fucking point. the less you worry about what everyone else is thinking the more you let yourself just be chill & happy
example: it looks like your friends at school were just talking shit about you before you sat down. you see people whispering & suddenly you’ve jumped to the conclusion that they must have been talking about that thing you wore or posted or did on the weekend or do they all not like me now. when in reality they were just fucking talking. & you know what even if you are right & they were talking shit… so are you now gonna act insecure or shy or anxious? fuck that. ignore & go about your damn life. you see an issue you could quickly jump to conclusions about & choose to believe the better of the two; that everything’s okay. sit with your friends with a smile on your face & go about your day because that’s all u can do anyways. it’s essentially having two options. one you can be stressed & anxious or the other, you can be oblivious & at peace. i choose peace everytime & get anxious about the things that matter & are real
underthink your way through life. it’s literally the most peaceful positive thing you can do. you just get to live in your own world of bliss that no ones gonna fuck up unless it’s reality
